Visitor Books

Polly from ZM Online was talking this morning about a friend having Visitors Book to sign whenever someone visits the house.

The general consensus was that for just every day use, this was a bit weird BUT we reckon there is a perfect time when having a visitors books is a brilliant idea - when you've just had a baby.

Depending on how your birth went you might not be completely with it and having somewhere where people can share their congratulations will mean you have a chance to actually remember what they said!

If you are planning to give birth at hospital, then take it to hospital. If after the birth, you are sleeping or just not up to visitors, then get your partner to ask people to sign the visitors book instead.  (like you really feel like seeing your boss or Great Aunt Mertle right now!)

It's a lovely momento of the big occasion and one you can look back on and share with your child once they are older.

Top 3 Tips for Birth

Every mother's experience of birth is different. Between Heidi and I we've experienced full-intervention (both of us), a natural birth and a c-section birth. Here are our top 3 tips for each of those scenarios and the days after:

Assisted birth (eg, epidural, forceps etc)

1. If you've been in labour a long time, use the epidural relief to get some rest
   
2. It's not necessarily the 'easy' way: After the birth of my first baby (induced, epidural, forceps) I felt like I'd gone 3 rounds with David Tua. I was bruised from where the IV has been inserted (like my whole hand was purple), the epidural entry throbbed not to mention the stitches!
3. Your feet and ankles might swell up for the next week or so from all the IV fluids (noice)

Natural

1. Consider a female support person (in addition to your partner/husband) and talk to them before the birth about what you think you will need most from them (gentle reminders of focus, calming words etc). Ideally they'll have given birth themselves (and therefore have awareness of the process) and will support your choice for a natural birth.
   
2. Try to take the contractions one at a time rather than worry if they are getting worse. Easy to say when you're not having them but it helps to think of each one as one step closer to the end and meeting your brand new bubba!
3. Be familiar with the signs of Transition: When it was all getting too much and I wanted to give up (which is itself one of the signs of transition), I vomited and I realised then that I was in transition and the next stage was close. This realisation was exciting and gave me the energy I needed.
   
   

C-Section

1. Get someone to stay with you that for day/night. You don't know which nurses will come and go throughout and some will be brilliant, some not so much. Having someone you trust on hand to help you can make the world of difference.
   
2. Take your own pillows, hospital pillows suck.
3. No visitors the first 2 days. As hard as it might be, be firm with visitors and tell them they are welcome to come and see you and baby in a couple of days.
   

Heidi and I moments after my son was born. Will see if I can find a shot of Heidi and Finn (that ought to get Heidi's attention- hehe )





Check out the Belly Beyond resources page for more on natural birth as well as tips on things to do before baby arrives and what to pack for labour